Adoption, abortion and IVF or surrogacy followed by adoption are all regulated mainly from the needs and desires of the prospective parents. Abortion is almost on demand. Gay couples exploit surrogacy possibilities to acquire children on demand. Adoption of orphans or abandoned children is supposed to be based on the best interests of the child but the child rarely gets the chance to choose.
But what if a child could choose its parents ………
Assume that wealth is just a qualifying criteria and does not dominate or corrupt the regulations. Assume further that unstable individuals, paedophiles, sexual predators and unstable relationships have magically been excluded. Let us take for granted that all individuals have qualified by passing a basic “parenting competence” test. (And why isn’t parenting competence a subject that is taught?)
How then would a child choose its parents?
My perception of a child’s preferences:
Category 1 – Preferred
- Biological mother and biological father
Category 2 – Acceptable
- Biological mother and step-father
- Biological father and step-mother
- Unrelated heterosexual couple
Category 3 – Conditionally Acceptable
- Single mother (biological)
- Single father (biological)
- Biological mother and lesbian partner (girl-child only)
- Biological father and gay partner (boy-child only)
- Unrelated lesbian couple (girl child only)
- Unrelated gay couple (boy-child only)
Category 4 – Disallowed
- Single unrelated mother
- Single unrelated father
- Biological mother and lesbian partner for a boy-child
- Biological father and gay partner for a girl-child
- Unrelated lesbian couple for a boy-child
- Unrelated gay couple for a girl-child
Given a choice and everything else being equal, no child – I think – would prefer anything other than having its biological father and mother as its parents.
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